The 10 Major Signs.

Main entry: Gold digger
construction sign Pronunciation: Gold dig'er
Function: noun
Date: 20th century

Definition: 1) A person that seeks to form relationships purely out of the desire for personal gain. 2) An individual that uses relationship dating to get gifts and/or money from the other person.

We all know what a gold digger is but we rarely give the concept much thought. When it does come up in a conversation, it is usually about someone else's partner, not your own. Why is that?

Another detail that needs touched upon is the fact that the number of gold diggers that are male is increasing (that's right; females aren't the only sex that harbors diggers). With the advancement of women in the workplace over the past few decades, more and more males are starting to pursue relationships solely with their own benefits in mind.

The thought is undoubtedly chilling - that your partner has been tricking you with fake emotions and using you only for their own gain. Luckily the common signs of digging in relationship dating are bright and noticeable.

Read the "neon" signs of a gold digger below and see how your partner measures up.

Important:

The items below are merely warning signs that your partner MAY be a gold digger or heading in that direction.

They are NOT meant to serve as a diagnosis, nor confirmation, that your partner is guilty of "digging".

The Signs

1) Your partner is very materialistic.
While there isn't necessarily anything wrong with valuing your property and desiring nice things, if it gets to the point of controlling them (such as every other sentence they say involves some type of buyable item) there may be an issue at hand.

2) Your partner often asks for "stuff".
"Stuff" is being used as an open-ended concept. It doesn't have to be $200 designer shoes, if your partner is always asking for a new t-shirt for a "mere" $10; it could still be a sign.

3) Your partner often inquiries about holidays.
Holidays are fun and exciting, but if you find yourself being questioned about upcoming gifts when Christmas was just last week, it could be a hint that something is up.

4) Your partner gets angered by gifts.
If your partner shows frustration, open disappointment, or ungratefulness about gifts that you give them (or if it appears that they are asking "where are the rest of my presents?") it could be a sign.

5) Steep physical differences exist.
While 'love is blind' can be a true statement, for the overwhelming majority of people - it's not. Everyone wants to be with a physically attractive partner. Rarely in reality will a model want to be with an elderly person because of "physical attraction" or their "wonderful personality." If there are extreme physical differences between you and your partner (THAT EXISTED BEFORE YOU STARTED DATING), then something fishy may be going on.

6) Your partner rarely "gets physical".
If your partner seems to avoid or show disinterest in sexual activities UNLESS bought something, there may be a problem.

7) Your partner has a past history of "digging".
If your partner admits or is known to have been a digging in a past relationship, the habit isn't likely to just vanish suddenly. Old habits are hard to break.

8) Your partner never pays.
If your partner rarely (if ever) pays for a dating activity or for a meal and doesn't even consider going dutch, it could be a sign. While men traditionally pay for the first date, no where in the dating library does it state that a certain partner (male or female) is supposed to pay for everything.

9) Your partner relies on others.
If your partner relies completely on others for fulfilling their costs of living and purchasing needs, they may be a gold digger (i.e. refuse to get a job and earn their own money, while they are perfectly capable of doing so).

10) Your partner lacks any future job/career aspirations.
If your partner avoids the subject of getting a job and demonstrates that they have no intention of ever developing a career it shows that they may intend on becoming a leech.

There you have it. 10 warning signs that your partner may be a gold digger. The more signs that they show, the worse it is.

If it sounds like your partner may be "digging" and that the only key to their heart is money, check out our other material on the topic to find out what you can do.

Good Luck!