Why Rebound Dating is Dangerous

On the rebound relationship is a two part article,
be sure to read part two!

One common thing between girls and guys coming out of a relationship is that when they have been dumped (or even when they did the dumping) there is still an emotional tie to their now ex-partner.

Many guys find that a good treatment to assist in the healing process is to begin pursuing other women - the sooner and less strings attached the better. It seems that we are sometimes unable to pursue something meaningful without first grabbing something meaningless.

It is not only men though. This is a not an uncommon practice among girls too! Many choose to "clear their palate" of the ex boyfriend after a relationship went bad. Sometimes a girl may even have a specific "friend" who she would uses between relationships - just to sort her out.

Now you may be saying, "Hey, a girl looking for something meaningless? Sign me up!” Well, this is meant to be about dating, not notches on your bedpost.

Also there are many other valid reasons why you do not want to be in an on the rebound relationship.

First and foremost a relationship that begins with you meeting one day, sparks flying and you two jumping into bed together does sound like a lot of fun (and it is).

However, it plants a fundamental seed of uncertainty when one of you is just going out for a night without the other or if one of you has to spend a night away somewhere for some reason. Often the partner left behind will be left with the nagging that their significant other will just jump into another bed on a whim again.

Secondly, it may not even get as far as a relationship! As a girl, on the rebound dating is unpredictable for many reasons.

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Assuming you know essentially nothing about her ex boyfriend or the nature of the breakup, you are unwittingly tap-dancing in a minefield. Something that you do or say may remind her suddenly of her ex boyfriend - the fact that you take mayo with your fries, or that you love to listen to Kid Rock, the fact that you take your coffee with sugar but no milk - anything...

This is Part one of a two-part series on the rebound topic - composed by Richard Ford. Be sure to check out part two!